Introvert, Extrovert and In Between

Once upon a time I thought I was an extrovert. I loved being out and about with people! In fact, I could barely stand being home. After a little while, I had to get out and I was out or with people 5-6 days a week at times.

Since then, I learned more about what it means to be an introvert.

I also learned, I am one.

I need the quiet recharge, the time away, the solitude. If I don't get it, at least a little bit, I get a little... cranky.

Okay, a lot cranky.

I thought that because I am social, I must be an extrovert, but I learned extroverts actually recharge in social settings. The quiet down time that I need, they don't.

Now, almost all people have a little introversion and a little extroversion in them. Very few if any people are 100% one or the other. But, it is helpful to know which one you are more like. This helps you know what you need.

And it helps to know which one your spouse, significant other and or children are. This can help you read them and understand their needs.

This introvert/extrovert difference can strain a relationship if not understood. Let's say you are an extrovert like me. You need down time. Your spouse or child might be an extrovert. If so, they may wear you out at times, especially if you don't communicate your needs and set limits.

Likewise, if you are an extrovert and your spouse or child is an introvert, you might find yourself dragging them out of the house. You might even feel they are a little boring some times.

Maybe they just need a few minutes.

It is good to know the other persons type and needs. This way you can understand why they do what they do even if they don't realize it.

Communication about needs is essential, but it is pretty hard to communicate about them if you aren't aware of them or the triggers for such needs.

I sit quietly because I need to. It is my recharge.

How do you recharge?